What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you think of Valentine? Is it chocolates, roses, candles or is it the romance in the air? I find all of them fake. Not that you should not celebrate Valentine’s Day or you should not make your partner feel special but are you sure what you are doing is a feeling and not a fashion? Are you sure what you are doing comes straight from your heart? Being a Relationship Counselor I have seen relations. I have witnessed broken hearts and broken dreams. I have closely examined them and I have found that in most of the relations the feeling of love and care are so superficial that people cannot differentiate between habit and love.
Yes this will surprise you but 80 out of 100 couples are together not because they are made for each other but because they have developed a habit or addiction for each other. This is not love. Love is to respect and appreciate your partner. It is not to make him or her feel special on a particular day but it is to feel special every moment in each others presence. To many it may sound funny but trust me if it is not like this with you, then I am afraid you haven’t really experienced love and the passion of love.
Though I never say that good couples don’t have differences and arguments but in their case the problems are solved quickly and they keep enjoying their togetherness. For them problems are just tests and differences are complements. In all relationships problems do not arise because there are difficulties, problems arise when there is lack of trust, jealousy, domination, judgmental attitude and nonacceptance of the person for who he or she is. Sometimes even the best of the couples have to change to a certain level for each other but those changes come so effortlessly out of mutual love and respect that they consider them as improvements in themselves and not compromises.
If we can really be ourselves with our partners and accept them for who they are, then my dear we are in a true relationship. A relationship that lives for eternity and even beyond it. The one which starts at the heart, goes on with the life and ends at the soul to meet again in the next life…..